What exactly is JEALOUSY according to you?
feeling or showing suspicion of someone's unfaithfulness in a relationship?
a feeling of unhappiness and anger because someone has something or someone that you want?
There are in-numerous ways we can define jealousy or as Shakespeare said 'The Green Eyed Monster'. But if described in one word, jealousy is nothing but 'INSECURITY'.
Being jealous is totally natural but not a quality anyone looks for in a partner. We all know that jealousy can bring no good but in some way or another we can all relate to the green eyed monster.
What or who is the root of jealousy? Is it EVERY girl that talks to your boyfriend? Most certainly not! Jealousy is born from within and its a major sign of low self esteem. It may seem silly or completely harmless in the beginning, but if you let jealousy take over, it can ruin your relationship and personal life in split seconds. All it takes is an ugly conversation followed by an episode of fuming jealousy.
If you want to lead a happy relationship and wish to live a happy and secure life, then its time to check your Jealousy Meter and kick it out of your life before you start acting crazy and drive loved ones away.
First, lets identify the signs of jealousy:
1. You Are Easily Triggered
Anything your boyfriend does seems to enrage you. You get angry if he's out with his buddies or engages in a friendly chat with a female colleague.
2. Interrogation
You start with a Q and A every time your boyfriend does something unusual. You show unnecessary interest to know tiny details of who he was with, what he did, where he went etc. This can be more annoying than you think.
3. Clingy
If you find yourself calling your boyfriend every half hour or force him to meet you every other day even if he is busy, you a victim of serious jealousy issues.
4. Eagle Eyes
You spy on your boyfriend by stalking his social networking profile, call logs, text messages.
5. You Get Upset When Your Boyfriend Talks About Other Girls
Every person is entitled to an opinion including your boyfriend. Do you find yourself getting upset or angry when your boyfriend talks about or compliments other girls?
If you can relate to even three signs mentioned above, you are off the deep end. Don't worry though, you're not alone, which is why we have gathered 6 effective ways to get this jealousy problem under lock and key.
1. Admit That You Are Jealous
The biggest problem lies within us and it would be so much easier if we can just admit the bad habits we have. Assess yourself and think of ways to control your jealous emotions.
2. Question Yourself
Rather than questioning your partner, question yourself. Ask yourself "Why do I feel this way?", "Am I benefiting from it?", "Does questioning make my relationship better or worse?". When you raise these eye opening questions for yourself, you'll understand how foolish this is.
3. Talk To a Friend
Don't make the mistake of talking about your jealousy issues with your partner. Instead, seek a friend's advise on this subject. Someone who can understand and make you feel secure. Discussing your jealousy with your partner will only lead to a fight and in turn end in tears.
4. REALLY Trust Your Partner
Trust is not just a word. It is a strong bond between two people. If you say you trust your partner and still question him about his actions, it may deeply hurt him even if he doesn't say it out loud. REALLY believe your partner's words and trust him completely. You have no idea how amazing that feels.
5. Never Compare Yourself to Others
Always think of yourself as a superior person. Think that you are better than the others in some way or another. STOP comparing yourself to your partner's friends. Your partner is with you for a reason so being jealous only proves that you are insecure and not good enough for him.
6. Write How You Feel
Don't like discussing matters with friends? Don't worry! Many introverts feel uncomfortable sharing problems with other people. In this case, try writing about your feelings. You don't have to be a writer or use big words. Just take a diary and simply write what you feel. Be dramatic, crazy completely unreasonable BUT only in your diary. However, writing how you feel is not going to be enough. Once you are done, READ it out loud. Reading what you write will help you figure out how to deal with your jealousy issues in your own ways wiand will help you gain some clarity.
We hope these simple steps would help you keep your jealous feelings in check and become a better partner. Stay happy. Good Luck!
Being jealous is totally natural but not a quality anyone looks for in a partner. We all know that jealousy can bring no good but in some way or another we can all relate to the green eyed monster.
What or who is the root of jealousy? Is it EVERY girl that talks to your boyfriend? Most certainly not! Jealousy is born from within and its a major sign of low self esteem. It may seem silly or completely harmless in the beginning, but if you let jealousy take over, it can ruin your relationship and personal life in split seconds. All it takes is an ugly conversation followed by an episode of fuming jealousy.
If you want to lead a happy relationship and wish to live a happy and secure life, then its time to check your Jealousy Meter and kick it out of your life before you start acting crazy and drive loved ones away.
First, lets identify the signs of jealousy:
1. You Are Easily Triggered
Anything your boyfriend does seems to enrage you. You get angry if he's out with his buddies or engages in a friendly chat with a female colleague.
2. Interrogation
You start with a Q and A every time your boyfriend does something unusual. You show unnecessary interest to know tiny details of who he was with, what he did, where he went etc. This can be more annoying than you think.
3. Clingy
If you find yourself calling your boyfriend every half hour or force him to meet you every other day even if he is busy, you a victim of serious jealousy issues.
4. Eagle Eyes
You spy on your boyfriend by stalking his social networking profile, call logs, text messages.
5. You Get Upset When Your Boyfriend Talks About Other Girls
Every person is entitled to an opinion including your boyfriend. Do you find yourself getting upset or angry when your boyfriend talks about or compliments other girls?
If you can relate to even three signs mentioned above, you are off the deep end. Don't worry though, you're not alone, which is why we have gathered 6 effective ways to get this jealousy problem under lock and key.
1. Admit That You Are Jealous
The biggest problem lies within us and it would be so much easier if we can just admit the bad habits we have. Assess yourself and think of ways to control your jealous emotions.
2. Question Yourself
Rather than questioning your partner, question yourself. Ask yourself "Why do I feel this way?", "Am I benefiting from it?", "Does questioning make my relationship better or worse?". When you raise these eye opening questions for yourself, you'll understand how foolish this is.
3. Talk To a Friend
Don't make the mistake of talking about your jealousy issues with your partner. Instead, seek a friend's advise on this subject. Someone who can understand and make you feel secure. Discussing your jealousy with your partner will only lead to a fight and in turn end in tears.
4. REALLY Trust Your Partner
Trust is not just a word. It is a strong bond between two people. If you say you trust your partner and still question him about his actions, it may deeply hurt him even if he doesn't say it out loud. REALLY believe your partner's words and trust him completely. You have no idea how amazing that feels.
5. Never Compare Yourself to Others
Always think of yourself as a superior person. Think that you are better than the others in some way or another. STOP comparing yourself to your partner's friends. Your partner is with you for a reason so being jealous only proves that you are insecure and not good enough for him.
6. Write How You Feel
Don't like discussing matters with friends? Don't worry! Many introverts feel uncomfortable sharing problems with other people. In this case, try writing about your feelings. You don't have to be a writer or use big words. Just take a diary and simply write what you feel. Be dramatic, crazy completely unreasonable BUT only in your diary. However, writing how you feel is not going to be enough. Once you are done, READ it out loud. Reading what you write will help you figure out how to deal with your jealousy issues in your own ways wiand will help you gain some clarity.
We hope these simple steps would help you keep your jealous feelings in check and become a better partner. Stay happy. Good Luck!